Stories

Feb12

Being a Good Friend to Myself

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I read an article recently about the positive effects of being a good friend to yourself when looking for a new job. According to the article, those who give themselves pep talks and words of consolation after failed attempts are likelier to bounce back and feel more confident for the next interview, which ultimately improves their chances of getting that job!

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I thought about this and being a good friend to yourself is a great practice in other areas of life. Maybe just life in general. It never occurred to me to consciously do nice things for myself or say encouraging things to myself when I am going through a tough time. I’ve been blessed with a good support system but it doesn’t hurt to have another cheerleader on my team, especially someone who knows exactly what my life is like or what I am feeling or experiencing at all times.

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As a mother, I am busy taking care of my little ones and, if time and energy permit, my husband. I am, at best, a distant fourth on my list of priorities. A friend recently advised me to take good care of myself too and I am beginning to understand that this means being a good friend to that woman in fourth place.

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As a good friend, I would tell myself that… It’s OK to let the dishes pile up while I sneak away to a yoga class. It’s OK to let my kids watch TV so that I can enjoy some quiet time. It’s OK to let a fussy baby fighting naptime cry in his crib so that I can eat my lunch (which is usually my first meal of the day). It’s OK to not love everything about motherhood and think that sometimes, the hardships are greater than the joys. Because sometimes, they are.

And I would also say you’re doing great babe! coupled with this too shall pass! I would say these a lot because if you are like me, moments of guilt, shame or doubt arise fairly frequently and a strong support system is absolutely necessary, if not critical, for navigating these choppy waters.

Life gives us plenty of challenges to grow up to become better people. It’s impossible to face these challenges without the support of those who love us. I just want to remind you (and myself) that giving yourself a little TLC is something that you need to do today.

And every day.

Happy Friday and V-day weekend my loves!

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(I am wearing Madewell top, Express jeans (similar), H&M hat, Ash booties (gray),
Ray-Ban sunglasses, Fresh lip treatment in Plum)

Jan08

My Energetic Boys

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My boys are full of energy. The big one has always been a ball of fire but the little one is kicking it up a notch too and I am trying my darndest to keep up. My boys play hard.

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I hear it only gets worse? Maybe worse is not quite the right word… more vigorous. Gosh, I feel tired just thinking about energy levels spiking to new heights in the near future. :( Can this momma handle it? Two boys with feet like little motors that drive and crash all day long? Rough-and-tumble playtime that often leads to scrapes and bruises and sometimes, bloody noses? Nonstop fun and games. Action, action, action!

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I don’t know guys. I’m not sure I signed up for this. They’re awfully cute but I must admit that perhaps my favorite part of the day is when I get to admire their still and silent shapes while sleeping soundly or, when daddy plays with them and mommy gets a break. :P

(I am wearing Madewell Vest, Velvet Shirt, Topshop Jeans)

Dec25

Merry Christmas from Lake Tahoe

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The last few winters in LA have been so warm and dry, we were determined to find snow for our Christmas celebration this year….

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We hit the jackpot in Lake Tahoe!

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Some of us loved the snow so much that we did the happy dance with snow up to our knees. :)

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For others, the snow was a wonderful thing but very cold and wet and slippery for little legs that are barely walking.

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Happy or sad, delightful or cold, this was our very first white Christmas as a family of four and for that, it was a special one to remember.

Merry Christmas everyone!

(I am wearing Eliza J Coat, Madewell Vest, Mother Velvet Jeans, UGG Boots)

Dec04

Happy Birthday To My Sweet Nixon

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My baby Nixon turns two years old today and I feel relief that the hardest years are possibly behind me. Parenthood seems to be a different experience for everyone and for us, having two kids has been way harder than one, especially boys brimming with unbridled energy who run around all day, fight back mentally and physically and make the messiest messes you’ve ever seen.

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But if Nixon hadn’t come along, I would have never learned what I think is the greatest secret about the human heart. When Lucas was born, my heart felt full in a way that I had never imagined. When I was pregnant with Nixon, I was afraid that there wasn’t any room in my heart to love another person so completely. And then I saw his tiny face and heard his tiny cry and in that sweet moment when the nurse laid him on my chest, I knew with total certainty that my heart had just expanded to twice its size. Like magic.

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I moan and groan and complain all the time about how hard life is with two little boys but today, I feel grateful remembering that my heart is bigger than it used to be and it is full of love for the people that it beats for.

Happy birthday my love! I am wishing you a fun day of chasing squirrels at the park, playing with your big brother’s toys (while he’s away at school) and sneaking into the pantry to eat your favorite pizza-flavored goldfish crackers.

(I am wearing Brixton Cap, Madewell Jacket (similar), Madewell Tee, Madewell Jeans, Ash Booties)

Nov27

Giving Thanks

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I try to be mindful of my blessings on most days but I am glad that there is one day a year on which I vocalize the things that I am especially thankful for. This year, I give thanks for …

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Glorious fish tanks that fill my boys with wonder and amazement for at least 15 minutes which, in my book, is a very long time for any one activity to keep them occupied (and quiet).

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Sweet baby faces that make me smile and think that it’s all worth it …

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Goofy little boy faces that make me laugh and think that it’s all worth it!

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Warm, salt encrusted pretzels that keep our bellies happy while we spend an afternoon exploring the aquarium, where there is so much to see!

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Little boys who finally learned to walk at 21 months despite legs like jellyfish and now run around with so much joy and curiosity.

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Little boys who love spiders and spider crabs and other creepy crawly things that, prior to having any children, I didn’t know anything about but I know so much now that I am almost an expert on this topic. Almost.

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A hubby who is very handsome and very hands on with our little boys. I couldn’t do this thing called life without you.

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Last but not least, I am thankful for friendly, peaceful sharks who don’t mind little boys boisterously splashing into their lagoon and groping them with eager beaver little hands. No shark bites, thank you!

Happy Thanksgiving weekend everyone! There are lots of great sales going on right now, including up to 25% off at Shopbop, 40% off at J. Crew, 25% off at Madewell, 30% off at Zara, great deals at Nordstrom and Saks, up to 50% off at Bloomingdales, and 50% off at Express, where I stock up on my favorite legging jeans (they’re the best and such a great deal with the discount!)

(I am wearing Brixton Piper Hat, Sam Edelman Lucy Booties)

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