Growing Older and Some Lessons in Life

I’m 39 today. I wish it were a typo but it’s really true! The beauty of this age is that I’m finally old enough to have a little wisdom. And what’s the point of having wisdom if I don’t share it with everyone I know. On my blog! So here we go, a few lessons in life that I’ve picked up along the way to the edge of my thirties:

Be kind. This is rule number one. No explanation needed, just spread love! Always!

Be bold. I don’t have many regrets in life but I sometimes replay the moments when I could have been braver, more vocal, more gutsy. Age has given me the desire and confidence to live as fearlessly as possible and I am grateful for that.

Have honor. Follow through on your promises, show up when you make a commitment, keep your intentions and actions honest and you’ll become someone that people admire.

Give without expecting anything in return. The moment your heart gives freely is when love pours into your life. I knew this to be true the day I became a mom.

Have a margarita or two. Take a bubble bath. Watch a romantic comedy. You’ll feel so much better!

Do something that makes you feel slightly nervous and uncomfortable. Sometimes I have to push myself to speak up in a group of strangers or take on a project that I know nothing about but so much personal growth occurs outside my comfort zone that I’m always glad that I stepped out.

And just in time for the new year, keep making those resolutions! Even if they’re a repeat from prior years, don’t give up on the goals that you believe will have a positive impact on your life.

(Psst, my style recap from 2015 is here.)


Merry Christmas from the Lee Family

No matter what you believe, we hope you’re enjoying a beautiful holiday weekend with your loved ones! This Christmas, Lucas asked Santa for legos, Pokémon trading cards and Pokémon toys while Nixon asked for candies, ice cream sundae and chocolate sauce (not necessarily to eat with the sundae). At the ages of 6 and 3, Lucas and Nixon love adding the word diaper to everything they say to come up with such delightful phrases like banana booger diaper, sorry diaper and the very creative diaper diaper. That pretty much sums up what we’ve been up to this year! :) Merry Christmas everyone!


Celebrating Mother’s Day with My Girls


I got to celebrate Mother’s Day weekend in Palm Desert with my family. Our friends joined us to create a giant party crew of six families and the moms were able to sneak away for a boozy brunch, massage and tons of laughs! It couldn’t be any more perfect than that.

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I’ve always been blessed with the presence of wonderful women in my life. My mom was a single mom who worked tirelessly to support me and my sister and she showered us with love and affection to counteract any void from growing up without a dad. She was my first example of how a woman should be – independent, hard working, responsible and loving.

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My girlfriends are inspirational too. I met most of them when I was young and silly and that gave me the opportunity to witness a beautiful metamorphosis in which sweet girls grew up to be kind, creative and capable women.

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I admire my friends who have the heart to adopt a little boy from China and create a loving home for him. Friends who take the initiative (and risk) to hit the pause button on a law career to work in a kitchen. Friends who are moms with demanding careers who manage to enjoy action-packed weekends centered around their children. Friends who have the guts, determination and energy to chase dreams and build new careers, even if that means waking up at 5am every morning to get the kids ready for school and get to work on time.

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They are thinkers, do-ers, fun-loving gals. Best of all, they are kind, considerate and extremely generous through words and actions. I feel fortunate to be surrounded by these gals and hope to meet more inspirational women on my journey. :)



Decompressing in Scottsdale


Last month, hubby had to visit Scottsdale for work and I decided to tag along without the kids. It was a quick 2 day trip but exactly the break that I needed!


I am no stranger to hard work. I spent nearly a decade working in finance and law jobs with schedules that were sometimes brutal. When I was pregnant with my first, everyone warned me how hard it is to be a mom but I felt abundantly confident and capable going in. No sweat, I thought, I got this.


What I didn’t know back then is that being a mom is a nonstop job. You can never clock out! Especially with two kids (or more), the breaks are few and far between. Someone always needs something at any hour of the day (how about that 4AM nosebleed?).


Even the best moms need to take breaks. In fact, I think the best moms are absolutely taking breaks! In Scottsdale, I indulged in a 2 hour brunch buffet followed by early happy hour followed by a dip in the jacuzzi with a glass of wine in one hand and my kindle in the other. All by myself! It was the best kind of vacation for an overworked mom.

And at the end of the trip, I missed my kids so much that I rushed back home to smother them with kisses.

(wearing Gucci Loafers (save 1, 2), Gucci Bag (save 1, 2), Ray-Ban Sunglasses (save) and Blank Denim Jeans (similar))


Being a Good Friend to Myself


I read an article recently about the positive effects of being a good friend to yourself when looking for a new job. According to the article, those who give themselves pep talks and words of consolation after failed attempts are likelier to bounce back and feel more confident for the next interview, which ultimately improves their chances of getting that job!


I thought about this and being a good friend to yourself is a great practice in other areas of life. Maybe just life in general. It never occurred to me to consciously do nice things for myself or say encouraging things to myself when I am going through a tough time. I’ve been blessed with a good support system but it doesn’t hurt to have another cheerleader on my team, especially someone who knows exactly what my life is like or what I am feeling or experiencing at all times.

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As a mother, I am busy taking care of my little ones and, if time and energy permit, my husband. I am, at best, a distant fourth on my list of priorities. A friend recently advised me to take good care of myself too and I am beginning to understand that this means being a good friend to that woman in fourth place.

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As a good friend, I would tell myself that… It’s OK to let the dishes pile up while I sneak away to a yoga class. It’s OK to let my kids watch TV so that I can enjoy some quiet time. It’s OK to let a fussy baby fighting naptime cry in his crib so that I can eat my lunch (which is usually my first meal of the day). It’s OK to not love everything about motherhood and think that sometimes, the hardships are greater than the joys. Because sometimes, they are.

And I would also say you’re doing great babe! coupled with this too shall pass! I would say these a lot because if you are like me, moments of guilt, shame or doubt arise fairly frequently and a strong support system is absolutely necessary, if not critical, for navigating these choppy waters.

Life gives us plenty of challenges to grow up to become better people. It’s impossible to face these challenges without the support of those who love us. I just want to remind you (and myself) that giving yourself a little TLC is something that you need to do today.

And every day.

Happy Friday and V-day weekend my loves!


(I am wearing Madewell top, Express jeans (similar), H&M hat, Ash booties (gray),
Ray-Ban sunglasses, Fresh lip treatment in Plum)

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